Patience is a virtue and a problem

Patience is a virtue and it is also a problem. The ability to be patient and view occurrences through a lens that allows time for adequate development, is surely a high-value quality. Gaining a thorough and actionable perspective by moving methodically, both in your efforts and the effort of others, you are involved with, is commendable. Everyone has, at times in their lives, needed and allowed patience.

It was critically important in our developing years to have someone who would be patient as we learned to do something because we were unsuccessful, often time after time. Their patience allowed our failures to be building blocks and resulted in an acquisition of knowledge or skill we needed to be successful.  Most of us learned to ride a bicycle or learned our multiplication tables, not on the first try, but after many attempts and much patience. The patience of an interested person, made all of the difference and served as a virtuous example. They were patient and we learned.

And then there are those times when too much patience stunted the growth. Those times when our efforts were not our best and the instructor failed to tighten-the-screws and expect more from us more quickly. We were allowed to plod along when, if the expectations were set higher and the patience was less a part of the relationship, we might have learned more quickly and more deeply. Nothing is going to make you a better swimmer until you get in the pool to a place where your feet don't reach the bottom. The time for patience has passed and you had better swim or you'll sink. There is a time to cut-the-cord and take the position that too much patience is a problem.